Girl Drama

As an early teenager in the upper class of middle school, I’ve had my experiences with drama, bullying, and counseling. It’s a stage in life that no one wants to endure, yet I’ve come to appreciate it.

My entire life I’ve had experiences with bullying of some sort, or some type of drama with friends. From first grade up until sixth were my worst times, especially in first and second grade.

Like most children at that age, I was gullible, and susceptible to lies. This was something that was exploited in my childhood. My friends would poke and prod that weakness, telling me things that they knew weren’t true, trying to see how for they could go before I started to doubt them. One of my friends even bit me in second grade, after she told me that she was a vampire. Believing her, I asked her to, wanting to become, “one of them”, as well.

But nothing ended there. After moving to a new school, it was difficult for me to make friends. From third to fifth grade, I had more trouble. Third was rough, simply me just trying to find friends. It was fourth and fifth grade that I struggled with, at least in elementary school. After I finally found some girls who I thought I could spend time with, another problem arose. I suddenly felt abandoned, and I found myself alone again.

However, what really hit me the hardest was sixth grade.

I met a friend about two weeks into summer school who was the same age as me. In the beginning of the school year, she introduced me to some of her other friends. We got along well. But as always, what I consider to be the biggest conflict I’ve faced in my entire school career decided to take a seat right next to me at the lunch table.

I’d heard about girls being two-faced; but that didn’t mean I was ready for the possibility of one. We all know what two-faced people do. They’ll act as though they want to be your friend. Then they’ll turn around and speak in a completely opposite manner.

Now I know many of you are probably thinking; no surprise. She’s a teenager. She’s in middle school. It happens.

But there’s a reason I’m telling you of my background.

After that sixth grade year, I changed. My attitude changed. Basically, I said, “Screw It. I’m done with this crap.”

I gave up on trying to make things work, trying to fight a losing battle. It just wasn’t worth it anymore. I’m glad I experienced it, because it now gives me a glance at what others are feeling.

Because now, I’m on the other side.

Now, I have a friend who’s in a similar situation to what I was in.

She’s in need of a friend who will stay by her. Desperate for it, even. So much to the point where every time she doesn’t like something I do, she’ll call me out on it because she just doesn’t like it.

She’ll shun me for a day, then come back perky as ever, because, from where I see it, she’s pissed at me, but she doesn’t want to lose a friend. 

But the thing is, that neediness, that drama, and the negativity she gives off at each and every tiny thing she doesn’t like? That is what stops me from wanting to invite her to parties, to events, and from wanting to go with her when she proposes the idea of an event.

As my parents say, she’s one of those friends who you can only spend so much time with.  

So here’s message I’m trying to send;

To the kids reading this – Do your absolute best not to seem that way in her situation.

If you’re in my position, be tolerant. Don’t lash out. But also, you don’t have to put up with everything.

To the parents – If your child is in my position, give the advice my parents have given me –

Be Honest. Be Caring. Be Accepting. Be Respectful.

Friendship is built upon these basic factors. Know that friendship is not a responsibility. It’s a mutual, unspoken contract between two or more people.

-Kaybae

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God Made Girls-What Do You Think?

Hi guys! Hope you are having a great summer break! Sorry, I know I haven’t posted in a while. I can’t write if I have nothing to write about!!

Today I want to bring up a considerably debatable topic.

Has anyone heard heard of the song “God Made Girls”, by Raelynn? If not, feel free to take a listen.

Pay attention to the lyrics and leave me a comment on your opinion after reading this post.

I found this song on a couple months ago, while randomly scrolling through YouTube’s music collection. Within the first couple times I listened to it,  I fell in love with it. She’s talking about human integrity, and how women were created to complement men, as well as the other way around right? A couple days ago, I was listening to it while scrolling through the comments, a habit I somehow developed over time, being cautious on social media. I found a collection of comments that basically said that the song was sexist garbage. The first time I read these, my first thought was, What the hell are you talking about?!” And then I went back and listened to the song again, really paying attention to the lyrics, and how she wrote the song. After doing this, I decided to post a comment, replying to a specific comment that had been posted a little while earlier. This was the comment I responded to;

Its demeaning towards both genders. Seems like without girls, poor boys wont have any toys to play with. I know she probably didn’t mean for the song to sound this way, but it really does

And here’s my response to that:

That might be what you hear, but it’s not her message. There’s a certain part in the song where shes talking about how girls were created to complement other, and a very specific part. “Something soft and loud and sweet and proud, but tough enough to break a heart/Something beautiful, unbreakable, that lights up in the dark” I admit i listen to the lyrics and hear some parts that are sexist (Somebody’s gotta be the one to cry/somebody’s gotta let him drive), but that’s certainly not the message she’s trying to send. She’s talking about the integrity of women and girls out there. I get that some of the things about girls that she mentioned seem kinda stereotypical, but i hope you recognize that she wrote an incredible song about feminine strength

And that all came from me. A few weeks later I received replies saying things like; “I’m so glad that someone can look past that crap and see what she really wrote about” My point in this was exactly as it sounds-there are plenty of parts during the song where she is being disrespectful towards both genders. But however true that may be, the song’s message rings clear and true.  It’s a message that I love to hear. Girls are strong but weak, beautiful and loud, soft but tough,, and above all – true. That’s why the first part I quoted is my favorite part. Soft but loud, sweet but proud, tough, beautiful, and unbreakable. Without us, men would not be the same, and without men, we would not be the same. A person can break a heart, but not another person.

Let me know what you think of this song. Do you have a different view point? Just want to share your thoughts? I’ll be sure to respond. 

-Kaybae

The Cat’s Pajamas!!!!!!! :)

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Order of people from left to right:                 Skinner, Samsky, Donovan, Dale. I don’t believe the last guy is there anymore. See pictures of Peter on the gallery!

Anyone heard of The Cat’s Pajama’s vocal band? It’s a famous acapella group created by Skinner, who does Bass/Beat Boxes in the group. They call his role “Beat Bass”. Anyway, they came to my school on Thursday, and if we wanted, students could skip their second-to-last class of the day to come meet them before the rest of the school. Naturally, I was one of the about 60 the chose to. There was an assembly afterwards, and they gave us a little taste of what their concert that night would be like.

Okay, so now let me get this out there. I’m not usually one of those girls who squeals and screams when they see a band they like.

That being said, I had rehearsal for my school musical that night – and I couldn’t sing higher than an E.  (for those of you that can read music, I’m referring to an E still on the staff. Its on the last space, but not above the top line)

I was squealing and screaming so much that I nearly lost my voice. And that was before the full performance. However……..SO WORTH IT! (:

The full concert that night lasted (including intermission) until about 9:30 central time. It started at 7……..Yes, a school “concert” lasted about 2 and a half hours. I LOVED EVERY MOMENT OF IT! 😀 <3<3<3<3<3 And I’m just counting the duration of the intermission, in addition to both halves of the concert. Plus, I stayed and extra half hour for autographs and pictures, and therefore did not get home until about 10. AND, I was physicked because I got a pic with my favourite member. (Donovan)

So, despite the fact that I could barely get up Friday morning, I do not regret a minute of it.

To any of you who go to my school and were at either the assembly or night performance, feel free to comment on what you thought of them. (Sir Nacho!!) Also, be sure to check out the small gallery below. 🙂

-Kaybae

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Hi!!

Hi!! Kaybae here! I’m new to blogging, but I’m going to try to make this as fun as possible.  I’ve been wanting to start a blog for a while now, but never really got around to doing it, so here it is! My very first official blog post. If you haven’t seen it yet, I have a little Teenage Post/Life Hack on my blog. (see page titled “Teenage Posts/Life Hacks”) I plan to have a new one of these posted every week. I know for sure I might miss some weeks, but overall, I should be able to keep it up. (I have a problem of failing to commit to things sometimes, but I enjoy writing, so hopefully that won’t happen!) Anyway, we all love Life Hacks, so I hope this will be a cool and unique part of my blog. I don’t want to be writing about my life on here-no one really wants to read another persons life story. But I do want to write about the things I enjoy the most. So, here it is. A little bit about me.

 

Favourite Song (this may change every so often):  Clean (Taylor Swift)

 

Favourite Book: “Delirium” By Lauren Oliver

 

Favourite Movie: Don’t have one. There are too many to choose from!

 

Favourite T.V. Show: The Newsroom (HBO)

 

Favourite T.V. Show Writer: Aaron Sorkin

 

Favourite Color: pinkpinkpink!!!! PINK!! (as you can tell I like pink)

 

Favourite Thing To Do: SING 🙂 ❤

 

Crush: A guy who’s a grade above me

Favourite Language/Culture (Other than America): French-I’m more than 25% French 🙂

What do you think? Hate it? Like it? I’ll make sure to respond. 

 

xxx

-Kaybae

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